We Can't Get Away But That Won't Stop Us From Igniting Those Flames In Your Marriage!

"Social Distancing" has cancelled travel *and* added extra stressors to fire families on the front lines.  But you CAN still reignite those flames by creating your own private Commitment Weekend with our all new online edition.

Here's how this works:

1.  We send you a fun package to design your own Romantic Adventure for July 24-26th.

2. You listen to a few live online sessions (powerful but not too many!) with Guest Experts and the Fire Community.

3. Participate in Couples Bonding Experiences On Your Own Including an all new version of our "H.O.T. for Marriage at Home Edition"

If the one thing we know in this Fire Life, it's chaos!  And we're living in a time of some added chaos due to Covid-19.

Unfortunately this means no in person Commitment Weekend. This doesn't mean we're done with live in person events, it just means that until we can be together again we're looking for even more ways to serve fire service marriages.

Commitment Weekend remains the only event of it's kind for firefighters and their spouses, and we're taking it to the next level by bringing it HOME (or the hotel room or Air BnB of your choice.... but please.... find a sitter for the kids because this is about the two of you and a HOT steamy re-connection!)

How Will Commitment Weekend Online work exactly?

It is literally Commitment Weekend that you get to experience together as a couple with our programs delivered to your door *and* watched live online.

Our goal is still for you and your significant other to connect, learn and grow with live online speakers, sessions, community connection and meaningful, playful and intimate private activities we designed to do at home (or an Air Bnb?) for just the two of you.

ALL of the re-connection spark for your fire marriage, but from the privacy of your home (yes.... let your mind wander "there" ;) )

Keep reading for the full Commitment Weekend FAQs.

What Does Registration Include?

Couples registration includes:

  1. Online Attendance for you and your significant other.
  2. All Event Content and activities delivered in a password protected area (lifetime access to watch again and again)
  3. All digital and printable content including workbooks for each of you to record some new marriage milestones
  4. Speakers Sessions (live with Q&A and recorded)
  5. "How To" Workshops
  6. Date Night Plans
  7. HOT Session DIY Style
  8. Re-Commitment Ceremony 
  9. Private Online Community for Attendees via Facebook Group
  10. *Optional registration option to include our "Commitment Weekend in a Box" package shipped directly to you!

2020 Speakers

Travis Howze

U.S. Marine Corps Veteran, former Police Officer and Firefighter, international touring Comedian and Motivational Speaker. Learn more at travishowze.com.

Frank Viscuso
Writer, entrepreneur, fire chief, husband, father and highly sought after speaker. Frank is the author of 5 books including the bestseller, Step Up and Lead. Learn more at CommonValor.com
Reboot Recovery
Why is it that the first to respond to a crisis are often the last to seek help for their own struggles? Reboot Recover gets it.  Learn more at RebootRecovery.com.

Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo

Tony & Alisa believe that a healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together.  Learn more at OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com

Leslie Vernick
Leslie  is a popular speaker, author, and licensed clinical social worker and relationship coach.  Her book "The Emotionally Destructive Relationship", enables people to identify the root issues of dysfunction and stop destructive patterns in any relationship. Learn more at LeslieVernick.com.
Breakout Sessions and
Fire Couple Spotlights
Hear from real life fire couples who have battled the storms and strengthened their fire marriages.
Led by the men and women of the 24-7 COMMITMENT Community, we will guide small group discussions and forge bonds with your allies in the fire community across the country.
Commitment Weekend Online, created by Lori Mercer
After hosting 9 Commitment Weekend in person events reaching over 500 fire couples, Lori Mercer, founder of FirefighterWife.com has designed a successful experience to reconnect couples and build a community for fire families.
As the owner of an Online Business Consultancy, Lori helps businesses take their brands and programs online every day.  It's only natural that we would do the same for Commitment Weekend 2020.  If you've ever attended a CW, you know that every detail matters.  You can expect the same with Commitment Weekend Online, created by an expert in the Online Business industry.

"A few years ago I humored my wife, like many do, and agreed halfheartedly to go to Commitment Weekend with her.

I found, as well as I believe everyone there found, a new “family.”  You know there is a bond within the brotherhood.

But this group is more."

- Shawn S.

Why should firefighters and their spouses attend this online event?

Firefighters train hard, and train often.  Preparing for any situation, danger or possibility that they may face in the line of duty.

So why not train just as hard for your marriage? Regardless of if you're the firefighter, or the fire spouse, training for your marriage is your duty. Are you being intentional with training with your life partner?

Being committed isn't enough, you have to be ALL IN.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment to learning, growing and nurturing your relationship with your significant other.  Great marriages don't just happen, they take two people who are intentional with their time, efforts and words. Consider Commitment Weekend Online continuing education for your marriage.  

Firefighters often train for situations that may never happen, but could.  Being prepared is a critical part of the fire life. With Commitment Weekend Online we not only provide you with great material to improve your relationship NOW, but we also give you tools and resources to stow away in your marriage toolbox... in case you ever need them.

Weekend Time Line

We encourage you to block out your schedule to spend this weekend together as a couple.  (No kids either!)  There will be activities you can do on your own as well as times to get online and listen to a live speaker or participate in an event.

We do not want you to be in front of a computer all weekend.  

We DO want you to connect with each other, be inspired by a few live sessions and the interactive exercises we are sending your way.

(And there will be a small list of things we suggest you gather to make this weekend an amazing experience)

Oh..... and if you can do it away somewhere together.... awesome!  If not, transform your home into a no-work-zone and romantic gathering place for 48 hours.

Pre-Event "Activities" begin by July 15th

We will begin to connect you with other fire couples and start some fun and helpful online activities on or before July 15th in our event Facebook group.  The anticipation is almost as fun as the event itself.  (Anyone try the 7 days of sex challenge?? Ok, well there's more too.)  Just be looking for your event materials by July 15th.  Then....

  • Print/view your materials.
  • Clear your schedule for the event.
  • Make any reservations (if you're going away)
  • Purchase any special items you may want to enhance your CWO experience (We will send a list. We will intentionally try to make you blush a little. All that alone time.....you know!)

Thursday July 23rd - 7 - 8:30 PM  ** LIVE SESSION **

  • Extra fun event kick off and "meet and greet" with TRAVIS HOWZE our emcee for the event

  • (You'll want to check in here.  This is when our fun raffles begin!)
    • For this session.... it's ok if you have not yet "cleared your house" or if someone is at the station.  It's meant to get you excited and be sure you have everything you need.

Friday July 24th

  • COUPLES WORK OUT 6 - 10 am EST
    • Recorded fun couples workout by a firefighter specific fitness trainer will be released at this time for you to do together at a time that works for you :)

  • REBOOT RECOVERY  ** LIVE ** 10:30 - 11:30 AM EST

  • FRANK VISCUSO **LIVE** 12:00 - 1:15 PM EST
    • Live speaking session and Q&A from the author of "Step Up & Lead"
    • Be inspired by Frank's leadership style and relationship advice for fire families


  • "How to do H.O.T. for Marriage at Home" ** LIVE** 3:30 - 4:00 PM EST
    • We'll wrap up the afternoon with a fun instructional Q&A on how you can create your own connecting couples experience doing the fire themed skills together at home.

  • DOWNTIME for you as a couple!  4 - 7 PM EST
    • Rest, recreate, talk, connect and get yourself dressed up for a fun date night at home!

  • Date Night Dinner at Home ** LIVE ** 7 - 8:30 PM EST
    • Live cooking session for you to follow along and cook dinner at home led by a Firefighter Chef and his wife (also restaurant owners and a hilarious couple who will make laugh!)

*** Attending LIVE includes special raffle prizes only available to live attendees.... and being part of the experience together with other fire couples across the country

Saturday July 25th

  • H.O.T. for Marriage at Home Edition  9 AM - 12 PM EST
    • It's your choice which activities you take on together as a couple but we will have challenges for you and encourage you to take pictures and share them with the group!  (there will be prizes!)
    • **LIVE** with Travis Howze 11:30 AM EST to recap all the fun and award prizes!

  • LESLIE VERNICK  12:00 - 1:00 PM EST  "Emotionally Healthy Marriages"
    • TBD if Live or recorded

  • Men's /  Women's Panels / Small Groups ** LIVE** 1:30 - 3:00 PM EST
    • You will each need your own device for this and we suggest some private space / headphones as you participate in guy talk / girl talk with fire couples just like you.  Detailed topics and how we will break to be available at the event.

  • "How To Massage Your Spouse" 4 - 5 PM EST
    • This will be recorded for you to watch alone and enjoy together (who wants to be on camera doing a massage??)  We HIGHLY suggest you don't skip this and take this time to reconnect and enjoy each other!

    • Do what you love to do together (grab some dinner!) 
    • We suggest some HOT date night attire.... as fancy as you want! Then be ready to join us for the final session of Recommitment Ceremonies and more great prizes and wise words for Fire Couples.

    • In your box of goodies will be instructions on how to craft your own "Recommitment Ceremony" words.  We provide some suggestions but it's ALWAYS best when you write your own (every single person who has done this at our live events has completely made their spouse MELT!  Speak from your heart!)
    • By this point in weekend you will be laughing and loving like never before!   And we will celebrate together with a virtual "cocktail", more fun prizes and our closing inspiring words for how to KEEP FIRING UP YOUR LOVE LIFE long after this weekend.

Sunday July 26th

"Extra" bonus day.  Do what YOU want for fun as a couple

You can pick and chose and design how you want things to flow.  Your welcome packet will be ready on July 15th and via email and our online community we will be sharing and encouraging lots of ways for you to design your weekend.   

Did you miss something on Friday or Saturday?  You can workout together, design your own version of H.O.T. for marriage, try a new massage technique, cook together (or get take out), write your re-commitment ceremony words, connect in small groups with other couples.... design your own romantic adventure! 

It may be the first time we've tried this online but we KNOW what can reconnect a marriage and we're going to come at you like a 5 alarm fire.

*note* sessions will be recorded but we cannot guarantee that we can have them edited and posted by Sunday but you know we are going to try our best!!


Orders after July 19th will not arrive before the Live Event, but will still be shipped to you.
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Registration Options

Want a little extra? This registration includes the entire event for you and your spouse, PLUS some amazing SWAG!  It includes all lessons, speakers and content, topped off with a physical swag pack mailed directly to you!  It's your own Romantic Adventure!

Less than 100 Available!


  No fluff. This Event Only registration only covers the online event for you and your significant other. 

*Does not include the box of goodies. 
Digital Delivery Only.
Still an amazing Event!

Want to Become a Commitment Weekend Sponsor?

Each year at Commitment Weekend, we have great partners step up who help make this annual even truly special for our fire couples.

We are currently accepting financial sponsorships, physical products for swag bags and giveaways, and in kind donations.  If you are interested in partnering with us for the first ever Commitment Weekend Online, let us know!  Click below and we hope to get back with you soon!

FAQs - Got a question you don't see?  Email us!

Do we have to be available for the entire weekend?

Nope (but we do recommend it).  If you need to work around a shift day, it’s possible.  There will be “live only” sessions and Q&A with speakers that will only happen live.  Some sessions will be recorded for viewing later.

What if it's shift day? Can he do it from the station?

We highly encourage you to make space for private time for the two of you to connect for at least 48 hours.  That’s so powerful for your relationship.  (Even if it’s in your own home intentionally focused on each other and nothing else).  However we do understand shift life and the flexibility to get creative.  Any work on your marriage is good work!  

Here’s the deal…. if he has a shift mid-stream, make a commitment to yourselves to find another 48 hour period where you can do the activities and watch replays.  The box is designed to let you “choose your own adventure” for a weekend of reconnecting.

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure.

So we know we can’t be at the entire event, should we do it?

I’d say yes.  There may never be a more affordable way to participate in a Commitment Weekend and any ounce of goodness you try to bring to your relationship is going to be a GOOD THING.

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure.

Do I need a hot dress?
Definitely.  Even if you’re staying at home we encourage sexy date night clothes and a hot dress!  Enticing each other should not have limitations just because you are home together.  Spice it up!
Will videos be recorded for playback?

Some will and some won’t. Some topics are just best addressed live. Recordings will not be immediately available.  (Takes some legwork to process that video and get it out in the protected area of our website.  Give us a couple weeks to get it all ready.)

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure.

What's the agenda? How does this flow?

(i.e. My son has a baseball game at noon Saturday.  Can we make this work?)

Listen, y’all are considering time focused on your relationship so I’m gonna tell you to take whatever you can get!   However, the agenda is designed to flow from one activity to the next (with some down time for the two of you to plan together).    The general agenda is above. The detailed schedule will be ready July 1st and sent to registered attendees.

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure.

Should we get a sitter?
Yes.  Uninterrupted, non-parenting, couples time is the goal here!  And…. we will talk about s-e-x which may not be appropriate for little ears.

How does this really work?  Are we just live watching zoom meetings the whole time?

HECK NO!  Even at our in person Commitment Weekends we schedule no more than 4 - 6 hours of speaker time over a 3 day period.   This is about connecting together as a couple and meeting other fire couples you can relate to.   All of this happens by doing various fun date / fire themed activities together.  Commitment Weekend Online is similar.  You receive a box of swag and activities.  We will have specific scheduled Zoom sessions with speakers, with Q&A and guiding you through fun activities like couples workouts, massage, date night, recommitment ceremonies and cooking lessons, oh, and our infamous H.O.T. for Marriage drills.  There will also be free space for you to do what you like.  Pick an activity from our box or choose your own.

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure.

How do these “interactive activities” like date night cooking, couples workout, massage actually work?

You will receive more detailed prep instructions beforehand such as….. food you need to shop for, what kind of work out to be ready for, how to make the massage moments comfortable for both of you.   At the time of those sessions, login and set up your device in the area you will be doing the activity.   Then watch and follow along!   We have an event host who will be guiding us through each step and experts in each area to make it fun to do together.

For playback editions, you will follow along with recorded sessions at your own leisure. 

How does HOT for marriage work?  Do I need all that equipment? 

H.O.T. for Marriage is perhaps the most fun activity of all of Commitment Weekend when each firefighter helps his spouse get into fire gear and run a fire themed obstacle / skills course designed by our team.   Clearly you all won’t have drywall breaching or forcible entry simulators at home (bonus points if you make this happen).

However, even just trying on some gear and trying a couple tools is going to be impactful as a couple.
Creativity is not limited here.  We will have a session to coach you through ideas for making your own at home H.O.T. (and yes if you want to build a drywall breach simulator, or forcible entry your own back door….. go for it!)   Just be thinking what kinds of things you could (legally) borrow from your department for the weekend.  Air Pack, hose pack, halligan tool, etc.  And be thinking what’s around

Can we just do it at our firehouse?
With the right permission, yes.  Could be super fun.  But guys….. just remember this is about connecting as a couple and not getting all eaten up by your firefighting training.  (We LOVE that you love to train but it might be a sore spot with your spouse m’kay?  Cause it kinda takes time.  She may be nervous about trying drills.  The goal is for you to CONNECT.  To listen to each other’s needs, get a little out of both of your comfort zones and to NOT end up in a tiff over something silly right?)
Can we do this as a group of couples with other Fire Friends?
Yes!  Great idea!  (in socially distanced safe small groups).   However each couple needs to individually register for the event.  If you do participate as a group, let us know by emailing us at contact@firefighterwife.com.
Raffles?  Prizes?  How will this work, virtually?

{Raffles are included in the Commitment Weekend Online LIVE events only, playback editions will not include raffles or prizes. }

Of course we aren’t going to skip this!  We’ve got some great raffles planned as always.  We have some online (legal!) ways to do the raffle tickets and will draw LIVE during the event.

Oh and prizes….. get ready to interact both during our live Zoom sessions and in the event attendee Facebook group (and possibly….. our new app - shhhhhhh! coming soon!)   We’ll be giving you challenges and asking for pictures and videos to be posted and shared.  Even though online, the goal is to make you all feel as connected as possible.

What technology do we need?

We suggest you login to zoom on one device and watch together.  A bigger device is better than a phone.  A laptop, iPad or even connect to your TV and get comfy on the couch watching.   We do hope you have video on for a few of the sessions so we can see and interact with you and ask questions.   Oh…. and Facebook.  We know not everyone is on it but it is a great way to interact in a group and connect with other people at the event.

You will also have a login for your Commitment Weekend content!  Those details will be sent to you before the event!

Will I receive anything in the mail?

Attendees registered for the Event+Romantic Adventure Box will receive a package for this event.

Event only couples will not receive this package.

What is 24/7 Commitment and why is there a fee to attend Commitment Weekend?

24-7 Commitment is a 501 (c)(3) non-profit with the mission to honor, support and encourage fire service marriages and families. You can learn more at 247Commitment.org.  The majority of our funding comes from individual donors.   We wish we had a big helpful generous sponsor to let us provide this all to you for free but alas.... not yet - if you know one, send them our way!).

So we try to keep costs as low as possible without sacrificing quality for our attendees.   And..... this is the LOWEST PRICED CW EVER since we don't have crazy expensive venue fees.   We are hoping this really entices a lot of couples to jump in and try it.

What is the refund policy?
We do not offer refunds for digital programs, content or events such as CWO.  You'll have access to all event materials, pre-recorded sessions and most LIVE sessions after the event, so you can enjoy or redo this event later!  If you have issues after purchase, please email us for help at Contact@FirefighterWife.com and we'll be glad to help you.
How do I contact someone?

Send us an email!

Email us to contact@firefighterwife.com today and we'll get back with you as soon as we can.

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